NCADV is reflecting and looking back on 2020, and we wanted to share the top five most-read guest blog posts of 2020 with you.
#5 What Everyone Ought to Know About Domestic Violence
"Having worked with victims of domestic violence for over fifteen years of my career as a registered nurse I thought I knew what I needed to know about abusive partners. I was smart, skilled and resourceful. I thought I knew what I needed to know to spot an abuser; However, nothing could have ever prepared me for the tornado that ripped through my life the day I found myself with an abusive partner."
#4 The Revictimization Game
"At the age of 82, I thought I was long past feeling the poison cocktail of emotions: shame, anxiety, fear, grief, anger and nothing that accompanied being a victim of domestic abuse. Then I read of the social media garbage thrown at high-profile women whose partners have humiliated, stalked, beaten, shot …. I’ll let you fill in the rest. If you’re reading this, you can probably extend the list for three or four more lines. Now I feel all those feelings, but mostly anger."
#3 Officer-Involved Domestic Violence: A Survivor's Story
"It’s a topic that is discussed very little. It’s a topic that the public has little knowledge of. It’s a topic that is not given enough attention: Officer Involved Domestic Violence (OIDV). Estimates vary, yet it’s estimated between 20-40%* of law enforcement families/significant others experience domestic violence. The International Association of Chiefs of Police have developed a model policy. Departments are encouraged to adopt policy, but it is not a requirement. Measuring enforcement, within a department, is difficult for the public to assess."
#2 Red Flags
"If you want to create awkward silence in a crowded room, there’s no better way than to bring up domestic violence -- bonus points if it’s your own survival story. Most people are afraid to talk about it. They avoid it, as if ignoring it could magically make the victims and perpetrators disappear.
#1 The Power of Speaking Up
"I had always heard that abuse is life changing. Whether you are in it for 1 year or 20 years, it can change your perspective dramatically. For an outsider, it may be difficult to understand how one part of your life could change the way you see the entire world. I was with my abuser for slightly less than one year, but yes, this one year changed everything."